Quirky Reads: The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k by Sarah Knight

I started off this summer with the best of intentions, I had a two week holiday booked, I had four books packed and a schedule of when I was planning to blog about them.......

Trouble is, when I got to my holiday, I was a bit too busy being on holiday and I read a grand total of one book.

Fast forward a few months and I've read another! Check me out.

This is a book my mum passed to me because she thought it would amuse me, which it did.
It has also helped me to try and readjust the way I think and what I value as important.

Without going into too much detail, it helps you to make a decision about the things that do and don't matter in the grand scheme of your life, the things that are important enough to consume your worries and the things that aren't.....in essence, identifying the things you should and perhaps shouldn't give a f*** about.

It's not an instruction manual, its the family member or best friend you turn to when you need someone to tell you that it's okay not to do something you really don't want to, even though you are worried about what others may think of you or tell you its okay to put your own comfort and happiness before others.

Some practical advice for cracking down on the jungle of chaos we create inside our own heads as we swing from branch to branch trying to be all things to all people whether we really want to or not.

There is even a handy section on how to navigate the very very fine line between actively not giving two hoots about things that don't matter and being an asshat.

I'd like to say that I officially have everything figured out in my head and from this moment on will be able to meander my way through life giving zero tosses I don't have to give - I probably won't, I'm not wired that way, but what I can do is have a bit more perspective about how my decisions affect myself and others in the bigger picture and maybe, just maybe, give a few less unnecessary f***s.

A recommended read for anyone with a brain as cluttered as my own and a similar compulsive need to please people :-)

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