Stop faking it: 30 day challenge #1

I attended a webinar yesterday by The Marketing Meet-up on imposter syndrome. I think we all experience it to some extent and I know it’s something that has held me back in work and social situations.

I often attend such webinars, take notes and think about all the great ways I’m going to change my life. I then, of course, don’t bother my shirt and continue to be a creature of habit.

What I really loved about Sahana’s session was that she introduced workable exercises and a 30 day challenge to practice giving them a go. This really struck a chord with me so I thought I’d give it a go.

Sahana’s session offered three alternatives to ‘Fake it until you make it’

These were:

Repeat it until you believe it
Learn that you earned it
Practice it until you perfect it

It would be impractical to do every exercise every day so Sahana recommended focussing on three that are do-able and work on those.

Today I’ve chosen to focus on:

Finding my edge - what is my unique thing that makes me great? While working on something I watched on another webinar that spoke about finding your unique ability, I asked a few friends what they thought mine was. The answer that came back was my ability to see the positive, not in a toxic positivity kind of way but in a ‘stepping back, observing, and picking out the positives’ kind of way.
Learn that you earned it: writing down achievements, recognising the role others play in helping you achieve them and making a note of what your are grateful for. I’ve had a journal app on my phone for about a year that I rarely use that asks you what you are grateful for and what your highlights have been each day. I made a point of filling this in.
Saying yes to opportunities by asking myself, am I doing this alone? What is the worst thing that could happen? What is the best thing that could happen? I’ve actively said yes a few times since watching the webinar yesterday by either saying yes to something outside of my comfort zone or offering to do something outside of my comfort zone.

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