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All You Have To Be Is You.


All You Have To Be Is You. 

It's probably not the best idea to blog when riled up about something but I figured I may as well take the passion and try and turn it into something positive. 

There is this notion that a lot of us seem to have, it is communicated to us through popular culture, on the cover of some magazines, on the rails of the occasional shop - and that notion is that we have to aspire to look a certain way in order to be considered attractive, happy, normal or perfect. 

Clothing sizes generally mean nothing and I mean nothing. Each shop differs in terms of what sizes they stock but they also differ in what size will actually fit you.  One shop could give you a completely different size from another and more often than not, clothes are made using minimal material thus resulting in you needing a larger size.

It's frightening the lengths we can go to in order to change ourselves because we don't feel we measure up to what society deems as acceptable. 

So many healthy young girls & guys, women and men end up with self esteem and confidence issues, weight complexes, eating disorders and mental illnesses in the name of conforming to how they feel they ought to look or be. 

Of course people have health concerns etc and not every situation is  as simple as 'you do you' but in situations where you feel you have to change who you are or how you look in order to be accepted or be good enough, pretty enough or normal - you absolutely don't. 


I feel particularly passionate about this but I also succumb to it on a frequent basis, every time I see a pretty celebrity, or a top doesn't fit me or I feel like I'm not good enough.

It's absolutely okay to want to change things about yourself as long as they are changes you want to make for yourself and not because you feel you have to because it's the only way to feel like you are good enough.

 Don't let other people or the world in general feed your insecurity and chip away at your self esteem.

The best way to be the best version of yourself is to be you! That's not to say it's okay to go around being an unbearable or intolerable person in the name of being yourself - there's a difference between being yourself and being as asshat but generally speaking, it's important to embrace who you are and more importantly - celebrate it! :-) 

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